He ate WHAT?

Update to previous post from 6/5/12...

      The hours between when I got off work and Baby J came home (about 9:40pm) were awful. I was literally shaking at some point, wondering how he was doing and if he missed me. It soon became clear to me that this wasn't happening again for a long, long time. Nope.

      When my MIL dropped Baby J off, I snatched him up and hugged him SO TIGHT. His face was sticky and his hair was drenched in sweat. (he sweats like crazy in his sleep, especially in his carseat.) MIL thanked me for letting them take him, then told me a variety of things that he ate while he was gone.

      It wasn't until a little while later that I realized what had happened. I am VERY serious about what Baby J eats. Being an overweight person my whole life, my parents didn't teach me about nutrition. Not until before Baby J was born had I learned anything at all - and thats when I decided to turn my life around. My husband, also being overweight his whole life, doesn't want Baby J to go through the same experiences that he went through. Not to mention the various food allergies in my family. So, in short, we are very serious about what he eats.

      Right now, he eats baby food for breakfast (oatmeal mixed with some kind of fruit usually.) Then a mid-morning 8oz bottle of formula. Lunch time he gets a veggie baby food, then dinner time is a mixed meal of baby food. (turkey with mixed veggies, chicken and rice, etc.) and at that time we usually give him bits and peices of whatever veggie we are eating with our meal. He also gets Gerber baby snacks and watered down sugar free juice in between meals. When he eats something new, it's only that one thing for at least 24 hours. I want to make sure that he doesn't have an allergic reaction. (this was recommended by my pediatrician also.)

      My husband knows how important this is to me. I asked him to please relay this to his mother. Apparently, she forgot. Later on, I see pictures of Baby J on Facebook drinking SWEET TEA of all things, and eating pie, cake, olives, breads, etc. When I unpacked his diaper bag (which was fully stocked with everything she needed) NONE of it had been eaten. None.

      So all 8 hours that my son was gone, he ate a bunch of shit. Not only was it shit, but it was SO much shit. What if he had an allergic reaction and me or my husband wasn't there? How would we even know what was causing the reaction?

      My husband and I had a long heart to heart after this. My heart has been beating twice as fast since this day, I swear to you. I was so angry. I was mostly angry at home for not being forceful with how serious this was and explaining his diet well. He said he didn't think it was as big of a deal as I did. We needed to get on the same page.

      I decided not to mention this to my MIL because I don't want to start any drama. My husband and I decided that next time she wants him (and only for a few hours and not past 7pm at my request and sanity) then it will be explained at that time in a serious manner. Example, "MIL, Baby J is on a pretty strict diet and we want to keep it that way. He eats this container of baby food at 3pm, and a bottle at 6. He can have the snacks in the bag if he's hungry, but please don't give him anything else. That would be great."

      Oh how I wish I could mention this directly to her, but if you knew my MIL, then you'd know that isn't something that would go well. I'm not questioning her parenting skills, but she isn't the parent in this case. Not sure I could explain that any harder to my husband either. Overall, I am pissed off and still very upset about the whole situation. Who in their right mid gives an infant sweet tea anyway? An infant that isn't your own child? Grandchild or not. It's not the same thing.